Follow Scott Disick’s example and fight for your relationships
I spent this past Thanksgiving break exactly the way it should be spent: sleeping until noon and rewatching “Keeping Up With the Kardashians.”
Any true Kardashian fan has seen the many ups and downs of Scott Disick and Kourtney Kardashian. From the start, the couple has been a reliable source of the never-ending drama for which the show is known.
Much of this is because of Scott’s alcoholism. His debauchery over the years has been nothing short of insanity and poor Kourtney has dealt with more than her fair share from him. That being said, I mourned the end of this relationship in 2015, I root for Scott in each one of his futile attempts to win Kourt back and I feel a disproportionate amount of pity every time she inevitably rejects him.
My emotional investment in Scott Disick is a surprising source of annoyance for me. How can I– someone who proudly stands in solidarity with women everywhere– root for a man who repeatedly makes selfish decisions and blatantly disregards his partner and family?
I remembered an article I had read on Cosmopolitan in 2015 titled “There’s a Reason You’re Rooting for Kourtney and Scott Despite Yourself” about Scott and Kourt’s then recent breakup (yes, I have a mental archive of Cosmo articles and I’m unashamed). I went back and reread the article, and the author, Lauren Hoffman’s, point really stuck with me. Her reasoning behind the apparently common, albeit judgement defying, support of Scott and Kourt’s relationship is that we, as human beings, are drawn to two imperfect people who work their hardest to make their relationship work, especially in this world of “relationship disposability.”
My friend had been talking to me about her relationship issues in conjunction with this so-called “Kardashian Binge.” Over the next few weeks, as I listened to her talk about getting “ghosted” and offered my best advice (once again, courtesy of Cosmopolitan Magazine), I couldn’t help but think about what Scott would do.
My friend’s problems were centered around pride and communication issues– both of them were unwilling to initiate anything because they didn’t want to lose their ostensible power and dignity in the relationship. But I think, and I hope Scott would agree, the real power in any relationship comes from leaving your pride behind, and putting all of your efforts into making it work.
For me, what makes Scott so endearing is his willingness to go to any extreme to show someone else that he loves them and won’t throw their relationship away (although his other actions speak to something entirely different). It may defy our natural instincts as human beings, but I think pride and self-consciousness have no place in a successful relationship. Ted Mosby says it best, “A word in defense of making (a fool) of yourself: it’s underrated.”
